Birthday Pause

Posted on Tuesday 6 October 2009

Birthdays call for a time out for brief reflection, for a momentary pause to assess growth and count blessings. What a year this has been.

* I left one restaurant job, accepted an offer for another at a hotel–which led to the need to buy an actual suit at Banana Republic–only to have the economy tank and watch the offer be suspended in indefinite limbo. I have yet to wear the suit.

* I traded high-rise luxury apartment living on the Intracoastal in Fort Lauderdale for cute-house living surrounded by water in the Keys.

* I discovered I can trade event planning for slinging eggs and make a ton of money in season doing so. I just wish I had saved more of that money in order to make it easier to get through the off-season.

* I re-learned how to tend bar after many decades, although the nature of my bar demands only that I mix the most simple of drinks and pour buckets of draft beer. Hence, I don’t feel like a “real bartender” because I still feel uncertain about making crazy-named shots and fru-fru martinis beyond a cosmo.

* I have come to realize that I worked for one of the best managers in the industry in Fort Lauderdale, and I often laugh at what passes for Keys work ethic in all types of businesses.

* I have worn flip flops and nothing but flip flops since I moved to the Keys. I recently sorted through all my big-girl shoes and laughed at the image of me trying to shove my foot into the pumps and dressy sandals.

* I believed, a year ago, that the Day-At-a-Time boy was sincere and in love. He probably was–just not with me. Funny, I know if I were I to meet him today, I’d hardly notice him.

* I had several girlfriends whom I thought were supportive and kind. I have lost touch with one, which saddens me, and I subsequently learned the other two are certifiably insane, especially when they periodically drunk text high-school-esque trash to me.

* I now know I had to wallow with the players and the liars in order to recognize the very, very good people who currently are in my life.

* I celebrated milestone moments in my children’s lives. As happy as these times were, they also reminded me how little I see my “babies” in between these moments, and how much I miss them every day.

* I have settled into a relationship with a great guy who, four months ago, refused to accept my insistence that romantic love was most definitely not going to be part of my realm.

* I have been given a second chance, which I thankfully recognize.

15 Comments for 'Birthday Pause'

    October 6, 2009 | 10:23 am

    And they say Thanksgiving is in November. Congrats on another circle completed RG.

    October 6, 2009 | 1:44 pm

    congratulations, sugar! all the best now and always! xoxo

    October 6, 2009 | 2:21 pm

    Happy Birthday! 🙂

    October 6, 2009 | 2:24 pm

    Good for you! It’s sounds like you’ve found your way to a good place. I’m really happy for you!

    October 6, 2009 | 2:59 pm

    I have worn flip flops and nothing but flip flops since I moved to the Keys.

    So is nothing but flipflops your birthday suit?

    October 6, 2009 | 4:21 pm

    It still sounds pretty nice down there.

    October 7, 2009 | 1:18 am

    I’ve been thinking about you all day- Wishing I had it more together to send you the surprise bday wishes I had in my brain- but, such is life- still – I’m thrilled to read you recap- which proves what I’ve always known about you- you are a strong wonderful gal! :). Happy day friend!

    October 7, 2009 | 7:32 pm

    happy birthday! it’s always such a pleasure to read you! i don’t comment often but i read every word. 🙂 congratulations!

    October 7, 2009 | 8:08 pm

    Happy B-Day, RG! Although, some of us don’t really celebrate them so much as breathe a sigh of relief that we’ve made it through another one. 🙂

    October 7, 2009 | 11:18 pm

    Heartfelt happy wishes to you on your special day. But then again, every day with you is special. All the best.

    Restaurant Gal
    October 9, 2009 | 8:50 am

    Thank you, thank you everyone for the birthday wishes and nice thoughts. I tried to post a longer comment responding to each person, but alas, my computer is taunting me on a daily basis as to whether or not it will limp though another 24 hours or just implode on my desk. If I win any money in Vegas, a new computer is on the list!

    October 9, 2009 | 1:20 pm

    Happy Belated Birthday Wishes to you ! Thank you for insight and stories – they have helped inspire and brighten some really low times for me.

    October 10, 2009 | 4:55 pm

    Happy Belated birthday wishes. Sounds like you’re having quite the journey.

    Have fun in Vegas!

    October 10, 2009 | 6:06 pm

    Came by from Kim’s blog. I think I’ll stay for awhile… if you don’t mind 😉

    Happy birthday.

    October 12, 2009 | 2:17 am

    Happy Birthday RG! I loved the post.

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