Comments on: Marlboro Boys

By: K.

K. — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:23:41 +0000

“Yet, in five weeks, we’ve only been out on one planned, pick-you-up-at-eight date for dinner. Oh, sure, I know he’s busy with clients, always.”

Five weeks? How did he manage to keep your attention if he was too “busy” to even take you on a date. You should’ve dropped him week 2.

It’s not about 6-month rules or men being shitty. It’s about setting standards for yourself and sticking to them. Any guy that can’t make time for you in 5 weeks just isn’t interested in anything serious with you. If a guy goes from consistent to inconsistent – drop him, no questions asked.

Dating really isn’t complicated when you’re in a good place and with a genuinely good guy.

By: Kim Ayres

Kim Ayres — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 12:11:35 +0000

Pah, Men. They’re all bastards! Well, all of them except me, that is. But I’m 5,000 miles away and happily married. All the best ones are. Or they’re gay.

By: mur

mur — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 13:27:29 +0000

I’ve come to respect your ability to see below the surface, and am posting to offer an observation, not advice. You are both thoughtful and wise, and you often notice the details that others might dismiss. That’s why you are a good writer, probably. So you’re smart enough to recognize when someone is inconsistent, and smart enough to know when the details don’t add up. The number one goal is to use your wisdom to make good choices.

If he is where he says he’s going to be when he says he’s going to be there – every time – that is one thing. But if his inconsistencies, his broken half-promises, make you feel forgotten, diminished, and devalued, even briefly, that’s another thing entirely.

You’ve got the wisdom to know the difference.

By: Jessie

Jessie — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 07:21:36 +0000

if you question somebody’s behavior there’s a reason. there are a lot of really charming men in this world who know just what to say and just how to act to make a woman feel special…and it’s hard to resist. Just guard your heart…your love is worth more than any words could express.

By: k

Fri, 06 Jun 2008 19:31:10 +0000

I used to have that way too often. I had so many guys in my life who would send those texts and make last minute plans. I found a guy who’s younger who is head over heals for me and my only worry is that we spend too much time together – all initiated by him… he needs time to grow and I need time apart, but hard to leave that feeling of warmth holding you tight and whispering things like: I’ve never been so happy in my life.
You’d like to think that stuff never ends…
When you least expect and respect yourself… the most wonderful things can happen.
You’re a bright woman, terribly actually, and go with your guts, I don’t think they’ve steered you wrong before

By: maureen

maureen — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 19:30:27 +0000

Have you ever read Dorothy Parkeres Portable ? There is a peice in it called the “Phone Call” It was written in the 1940′s but it could be any women waiting for a phone call today ( phone call that hasn’t come ). the one line that always struck me was” it was so easy to be sweet before I loved him” while I know you probably don’t love BOY Check it out it gives some perspective

By: JoeInVegas

JoeInVegas — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 17:50:30 +0000

Oh, sorry, but yes, there will be other guys. Next 10pm text don’t reply until the next morning.

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:43:04 +0000

Do what feels right to you… If you don’t know what that is then don’t do anything Not helpful but maybe it is…

By: Crinklish

Crinklish — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:41:23 +0000

Sounds like he’s becoming more angst-provoking than he’s worth. If you have to expend all your emotional energy on wondering why he didn’t call, or why he never makes real dates…you don’t have any left to support a real relationship. I think you should make yourself less available to those 10pm texts if they’re no fun anymore. If we’re wrong, and he’s into you, he’ll figure it out and start making plans. And if we’re right, well, better you know now before you turn into a pack-a-day smoker .

By: MenSuck

MenSuck — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 15:17:01 +0000

I personally think this guy is a player. I also don’t believe for a second that he was “deathly sick” for that stretch of days the week before when he didn’t call. I would just drop him and move on if I were you. I think you are very brave the way you go on making your own plans and living your own life. I had a similiar situation with a guy I was seeing for a year and my own suspicioins and curiousity got the better of me and my life started becoming more about analyzing his stories and worrying that he was lying. I actually caught him in a few lies similiar to your own situation and that’s when I dropped him. Guys can be such !@#$%!. Most of them seem to be after one thing and if they are handsome and charming they can get it anywhere and they know it. So they don’t invest much effort and behave like selfish clods at times.