Comments on: Accepting a Gift–With Grace http://www.restaurantgal.com/2006/08/accepting-a-gift-with-grace/ Scenes from the podium...one pager at a time. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 18:18:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Moi http://www.restaurantgal.com/2006/08/accepting-a-gift-with-grace/comment-page-1/#comment-1337 Moi Mon, 11 Dec 2006 05:50:53 +0000 http://www.restaurantgal.com/?p=115#comment-1337 I realize I'm jumping in late with this, but I just discovered this blog! As a waitress I often tip out extra to the cooks when they've gone above and beyond for me, and I do it because then they're remember that the next time I have someone screaming for something from the kitchen because they forgot to order it, and thought I was able to read minds....sorry, it was a long day today! :-) I realize I’m jumping in late with this, but I just discovered this blog!
As a waitress I often tip out extra to the cooks when they’ve gone above and beyond for me, and I do it because then they’re remember that the next time I have someone screaming for something from the kitchen because they forgot to order it, and thought I was able to read minds….sorry, it was a long day today! :-)

]]> By: Hostess Jo http://www.restaurantgal.com/2006/08/accepting-a-gift-with-grace/comment-page-1/#comment-599 Hostess Jo Mon, 21 Aug 2006 13:38:12 +0000 http://www.restaurantgal.com/?p=115#comment-599 thank you RG, Murph and Chef Joanna! Having had this weeknd off, I have no gripes (but given a few minutes I could dredge some stuff up, lol). I will no longer feel like a shmuck when I am tipped at the podium. Cheers! H-Jo thank you RG, Murph and Chef Joanna! Having had this weeknd off, I have no gripes (but given a few minutes I could dredge some stuff up, lol). I will no longer feel like a shmuck when I am tipped at the podium.
Cheers!
H-Jo

]]> By: Wayne Murphy http://www.restaurantgal.com/2006/08/accepting-a-gift-with-grace/comment-page-1/#comment-593 Wayne Murphy Thu, 17 Aug 2006 20:26:51 +0000 http://www.restaurantgal.com/?p=115#comment-593 Dear Gal, As background allow me to say that I deal poker for a living. My hourly wage is $5.85. Obviously, I depend on tokes in order to eat, let alone pay for housing and utilities. There are times when a customer will throw me a dollar or two for doing things such as bringing them a rack of chips, clearing their general area of empty beverage containers/trash or emptying an ashtray. Some will also tip on ridiculously small pots and/or blind steals. If this terminology is foreign, it doesn't really matter. The point is that when people give you money, they do it for a reason. Either they like you and appreciate what you do and how you do it or they tip because it makes THEM feel good/important. Yes, I have politely refused tips by telling the giver that I appreciate it, but it isn't necessary ( I would prefer that they toke me generously after winning a decent pot) HOWEVER, it isn't the right thing to do. So, do as I say and not as I sometimes do. Simply and graciously thank anyone who puts money into your pocket. They wouldn't give it if they didn't want to. It's IS as simple as that. Best Regards, Murph Dear Gal,
As background allow me to say that I deal poker for a living. My hourly wage is $5.85. Obviously, I depend on tokes in order to eat, let alone pay for housing and utilities.

There are times when a customer will throw me a dollar or two for doing things such as bringing them a rack of chips, clearing their general area of empty beverage containers/trash or emptying an ashtray. Some will also tip on ridiculously small pots and/or blind steals. If this terminology is foreign, it doesn’t really matter. The point is that when people give you money, they do it for a reason. Either they like you and appreciate what you do and how you do it or they tip because it makes THEM feel good/important.

Yes, I have politely refused tips by telling the giver that I appreciate it, but it isn’t necessary ( I would prefer that they toke me generously after winning a decent pot) HOWEVER, it isn’t the right thing to do.

So, do as I say and not as I sometimes do.

Simply and graciously thank anyone who puts money into your pocket. They wouldn’t give it if they didn’t want to. It’s IS as simple as that.

Best Regards,
Murph

]]> By: Chef JoAnna http://www.restaurantgal.com/2006/08/accepting-a-gift-with-grace/comment-page-1/#comment-592 Chef JoAnna Thu, 17 Aug 2006 19:45:18 +0000 http://www.restaurantgal.com/?p=115#comment-592 How can it ever be bad form to accept a tip? I often tip people who don't expect it, and it's VERY awkward when they refuse. I want to do something nice for you to let you know I appreciate your effort. I'm not coming by tomorrow with a batch of cookies or a gift (because if I were on the receiving end of that, it would be creeeeeeepy!) The way I see it, I can tell your boss you're doing a good job, (and I often do!) but if I feel like dropping a few bucks in your hand, just say "Thanks!" or even, "Wow! Thanks!" but I can't understand why anyone would refuse it, except if it's company policy. (I tried to tip the baggers who help me out to my car, and finally one guy explained that he could get in trouble.) I guess if you felt bad about taking a tip, blame it on company policy and you wouldn't hurt my feelings. :-) How can it ever be bad form to accept a tip? I often tip people who don’t expect it, and it’s VERY awkward when they refuse. I want to do something nice for you to let you know I appreciate your effort. I’m not coming by tomorrow with a batch of cookies or a gift (because if I were on the receiving end of that, it would be creeeeeeepy!)

The way I see it, I can tell your boss you’re doing a good job, (and I often do!) but if I feel like dropping a few bucks in your hand, just say “Thanks!” or even, “Wow! Thanks!” but I can’t understand why anyone would refuse it, except if it’s company policy. (I tried to tip the baggers who help me out to my car, and finally one guy explained that he could get in trouble.)

I guess if you felt bad about taking a tip, blame it on company policy and you wouldn’t hurt my feelings. :-)

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