Ask The Gal has struck a nerve, so here’s topic number two.
Heidi wants to know:
Is it really so bad to hold up two fingers while you are politely chirping, “Two, please.” I was a waitress and bartender for years, and like to think I treat waiters and bartenders well because of that. But now you’ve got me questioning my first steps into each evening’s chosen reprieve spot.
Heidi, I am certain you treat your former brethren very well. And my apologies for misleading you on this matter! Even The Gal holds up two or three fingers now and then to confirm a number in a party when the din in the foyer is deafening.
BUT–and this is the key–I also SPEAK to the customers, just as you politely “chirp” when addressing the host.
The rudeness factor kicks in when you wave fingers in a host’s face and say nothing. The rudeness factor squares by 4 when you are on a cell phone and wave fingers at a host and don’t speak directly to him or her. The rudeness factor becomes impossible to compute when you do the quote-sign thing.
Bottom line: Use your voice to talk to the host, and appropriate hand signals are always welcome! However, I reserve the right to laugh later about the contortions some perform in order to give those “polite” hand signals.
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